Being confident is something that I have struggled with as I have gotten older. When I was younger, I seemed to have ooodles of confidence and didn’t really care too much about what other people thought about me. Now that I am in my twenties, I have found that my confidence has slightly dipped. It’s hard sometimes to not beat yourself up when you look in the mirror, and give yourself a bad time, but to be honest, I have had enough of being so mean to myself and well at the end of the day why do I not want to be my own BFF rather than my enemy?
So I’ve been working on my self-confidence and here are some tips that I’ve been using. I thought I would share them with you, in case you’re going through something similar and want to stop being so mean to yourself.
1. Remember Not Everything Is What It Seems: the internet and social media is definitely a big driver I think for my low self-confidence some times. It’s so easy to look on Instagram, and YouTube and see what seems to be perfect people. Flawless, toned, tanned girls that make you feel like Quasi Modo, but what we have to remember is that most things on social media are edited. We only show the good things, (and our good sides) with more apps than ever that can help you fake a flawless complexion, and although not everyone edits their selfies and so forth, we have to remember that we only see THEIR best selfies, yet we see OUR good and bad sides. We have to remember that not everything is what it seems, and we have to remember that everyone has bad days and no one is perfect. I think once you start thinking like that, you start to realise that it’s okay to not be perfect as no one is.
2. Turn Negatives Into Positives: The next time you look in the mirror, or look at a photo and think ‘ugh look at my xyz.’ Think about what you do like. Think ‘okay I might not like my nose, but I have nice eyes, and I’m pretty funny.’ Turn any negative into a positive and focus on that. I promise, it makes you feel a lot, lot better.
3. If You Want To, You Can Change Things: If something is making you deeply unhappy, there is no reason why you can’t change things, only as long as you’re doing it for you and no one else. The littlest things can make you feel better, like maybe you don’t like your lips, so you could buy a new lipliner/lip plumping gloss, little things like that. I used to have a bit of a problem with my teeth, I used to hate how they looked, because I thought I was too cool for a retainer when I was younger, and I never really looked after my teeth. So I changed things around, I found my retainer and started wearing it again, I also started to look after my teeth more, and started using things like whitening toothpaste to help me whiten my teeth. My favourite has been Pearl Drops Lasting Flawless White which helps to whiten my teeth whilst also caring for them too. It removes stains and helping to remove discolouration caused by things such as coffee, this has made me feel so much more confident about my teeth and myself. Pearl Drops has been my favourite because it’s created by specialist whitening experts meaning that it doesn’t affect my teeth’s enamel as it only uses teeth friendly ingredients. Such little things such as changing my toothpaste has really helped me feel better about myself. Sometimes, you are made to feel like you have to deal with things, but the littlest things can make you feel better about yourself.
4. Would You Speak Like That To Someone You Loved: A big wake up call for me, was when I realised that I wouldn’t dream of talking to someone I loved like I talked to myself. If I wouldn’t dare say this to anyone else, why it is okay for me to tear myself apart? The answer is it’s not okay. So I tried to stop being so mean to myself, we’re all human and we all try our best. Sometimes we fail, and like I said above we aren’t perfect but that’s okay, there’s no need to beat ourselves up. Next time you’re giving yourself a hard time, stop and think ‘would I say this to my sister/Mum/bff?’ The answer is probably no.
I’m getting there when it comes to being more self-confident, I know that I am trying really hard to stop being so harsh to myself, and if you do this too, you should try to be nicer to yourself as well. Life is too short to spend the whole time, griping at ourselves because our thighs touch, or because we don’t look like Kendall Jenner. Life is what you make it, and I don’t know about you, but I’d like it to be a positive happy one 🙂
So tell me in the comments, what’s your number one tip for being more self-confident?
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