I kind of hoped that as soon as the 1st of January rolled around, I’d be carrying out my new year’s resolutions. I’d be this new and improved version of myself, karating chopping my way through life. Don’t ask me why ‘karate chopping’, I just see that as a sassy thing to do to get through hurdles. So I thought I’d be karate chopping through lack of motivation, anxiety – karate chop, doubt- karate chop, lack of creativity- karate chop. However, I soon realised that not only do I not work like this, but life doesn’t work like this.
The 1st of January, does not bring a new you, and it takes time to work up to being able to karate chop your way through life. Something I had forgotten that was for sure. Last week, I spent most of my time feeling annoyed at myself for not being as motivated as i wanted to be. I struggled to get out of bed at a reasonable time, I struggled with motivation, and couldn’t concentrate. My head was still in Christmas holiday mode.
This morning, I forced myself out of bed at a reasonable time and as I stood in the shower, I realised that ‘hey it’s okay to not always be on top form, and to give myself a bit of a break.’ So I thought I’d write up some things that perhaps we need to remember in 2017, I guess these can be an update to my personal new year resolutions that I set to myself.
Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself:
Last week, I was pretty horrible to myself, making myself feel bad for not having any energy or motivation. Although I definitely think sometimes you need to give yourself a bit of a kick up the bum, it’s also equally important to look after yourself. To listen to your body and perhaps get more sleep, or have a break. As they say, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so you can’t be expected to do all your new resolutions in the first week of January.
Stop Comparing Yourself:
This is possibly one of the most annoying things that people can say to you, it’s one of those easier said than done things that are as helpful as someone saying ‘why are you sad? Cheer up’ or ‘you really need to get over him/her/this situation’ and you’re like ‘oh wow thanks Tracey, now I feel much better.’ Just to clarify, no one called Tracey has ever said those things to me haha, but I felt like the name worked.
But we need to stop comparing ourselves, I am so bad at doing it, it’s so easy to look on Instagram and compare your life to someone else’s. Or your body. Or your blog. It’s so easy to do and well we all do it. But now is the time to stop. I hate it when I let myself get down or in a mood cause I’ve been focusing on someone else. In 2017, I’m going to focus more on myself and what I’m doing. 2017 will be the year of me (without that making me sound like too much of a knob!) I will focus mainly on what I love, and what I’m doing rather than what anyone else is. I will try to stop trying to find inspiration from other people and find it within myself. I also need to step away from Instagram sometimes and remember that yes it is a highlight reel.
Say Yes To New Things:
I am very much a home body, who doesn’t like change or things outside of their comfort zone. However, I do in 2017 want to be a little more adventurous. Whether it’s saying yes to going for a drink with a friend or going to London for an event. I feel like I need to push myself back out there again, as in 2016 I let my anxieties take over a lot.
I’m a pretty positive person or so I like to think. I spent many of my teenage years being so negative and honestly it made me a very jealous and miserable person. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve tried to see the positive in even really shit situations, and it does help. I want to continue this in 2017 and to remember what I have instead of perhaps envying someone else. I need to stop automatically thinking of the worst case scenario and perhaps thinking of the best, as I am notoriously bad at doing this!
You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To:
I do have a lack of self confidence which in the past has stopped me from doing things. However, I want to work harder than I have worked before, and to not let doubt get in the way. You can self teach yourself anything these days, and I can do anything I put my mind to. It may take some hard work and determination but I can do it. Here’s to not giving up!
To Stop Changing Myself:
I’ve never been an overly self confident person with my looks, and being a blogger who lives life constantly on Instagram and Pinterest, you can sometimes feel like Quasi Modo compared to everyone else. I need to start believing in myself and believing that I am fine the way I am. To stop dreaming of nose jobs and lip fillers, and realising that everyone is different. Yes I may not look like a supermodel but that’s okay. I need to remember that fairy lights and peonies are two of my favourite things, I find them both beautiful but they are both so different. That doesn’t stop my admiration for the both of them though. We are all unique in our own way and that’s what makes us.
I could probably go on for about three days with these kind of things, as you can tell I’m giving myself a big pep talk today! But I’m going to leave it there for now.
What is one thing that you want to remember/improve on in 2017?