Wedding planning definitely isn’t what I thought it would be. I mean the movies make it look like it’s just going round department stores with those fancy scanners adding stuff to your Wishlist or tasting 235 types of cake.
I have news to break though, 1. We haven’t registered at any department stores so haven’t used one of those fancy scanners and 2. we’ve had no cake tastings. Rude.
With just a few months till our big day, we’ve been getting into wedding planning mode a lot lately, weekends are filled with ‘wedmin’ and sometimes I will have a little freak out about how close the wedding is getting. The news of the royal engagement on Monday also got me thinking. As much as I love the Royals, and have the biggest girl crush on Meghan Markle, I did get a little nervous when I saw they were planning their wedding for Spring 2018.That’s not very long to plan a wedding is it? Especially when she’s moving in to a new place getting to grips with a new job and settling her dogs in to their new home.
So I thought I’d put together some tips on how I manage to juggle everything, which in my case has been; my job, a college course, having a house, the gym, and of course having Frank (my dog.) Thankfully I’ve discovered some really useful coping mechanisms, including Care.com, the world’s largest online destination for finding and managing family care, including pet care and housekeeping services. So whether you’re doing a Meghan and Harry and planning your big day in a matter of months, or doing what myself and Henry did, and giving yourself a good couple of years, you can keep wedding planning stress to a minimum.
So here are some tips for how to avoid stress when wedding planning, which hopefully will help whether you’re a Royal or non Royal couple 🙂
Spreadsheets Will Be Your Best Friend – Get Organised!
When it comes to juggling wedding planning, your career, chores, pet care and well, having a life, you need to be organised. I won’t lie, I was a little all over the place when it came to wedding planning in the beginning. Little notes in random notepads, post it notes and a Pinterest board didn’t really cut it. We soon realised our mistakes though and set up a wedding planning spreadsheet which has got tabs on everything to do with the wedding, i/e guest list, suppliers, budget (though I tend to not look at this too much as it makes me feel a bit sick) table plans, etc… At least we have it all, in one place, everything we need to know, which makes your life a lot easier. I’d also recommend having a separate wedding email account for wedding admin, as it’s then easier to reply to suppliers.
Having Set Days For Things – Cleaning, Wedmin, etc…
It can sometimes be a bit overwhelming when you’re trying to plan a wedding, reply to 3373 emails, clean the house, walk Frank and a million more things, all at once! I’ve found that the best way to stop me getting stressed, is by having designated days for different tasks.
Because I work from home, I sometimes find myself trying to do everything and then getting frazzled and stressed and shouting ‘WHY DIDN’T WE ELOPE!’ So weekends are our designated wedding planning days, and then we’ll catch up with house chores and we also enjoy going on walks with Frank on a Sunday, leaving Monday-Friday to concentrate on work. Of course sometimes life doesn’t always work this way, but I find it makes things a little easier to manage knowing that I have set days for different things.
Asking For Help
When it comes to wedding planning, it can often mean you need to spend whole days out and about. Whether it’s visiting your venue, having meetings with suppliers or going shopping for outfits, etc… which isn’t great when you have a pet.
We don’t like leaving Frank on his own for too long, so it can sometimes be difficult when we want to go and do something wedding related, but can’t take Frank with us.
Instead of either not going, making quick visits or leaving your poor pet behind, this doesn’t even need to be a worry thanks to Care.com. I thought it was a childcare website, so I was surprised about the variety of care services, including pet care, all at one destination. Pretty useful eh?”
There are a plethora of dog sitters, dog walkers, even dog groomers, who you can get in touch with to help look after your beloved pup whilst you’re out for the day doing wedding stuff. It’s a helping hand and would be one less thing to worry about whilst wedding planning. You could also alternately use Care.com to find housekeepers, so you could hire someone to take care of your chores whilst you’re busy doing other things. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help, there’s also lots of other things you can use the website for too, and there’s reviews on each carer so you can read them before enquiring about their services. I think that I will be looking into the housekeeping and dog sitting services as both are affordable and would be a huge help in the run up to the wedding!
Lists, Calendars and Reminders
I don’t know where I’d be without my calendar and reminder app on my phone. I have a memory like a sieve and when you have a million things to remember and do, it can be easy to miss a task here and there.
I literally log everything in my calendar, such as ; meetings, gym classes, deadlines, etc… and I also utilise my reminders app, so on important tasks flash up on my phone. Even if it’s just for little things, I’d definitely recommend the reminder app as you can hardly miss things when they’re flashing up on your phone!
Learning To Say NO
This has been my least fave part of wedding planning, saying no to people. Both me and Henry are people pleasers, and hate upsetting anyone which let me tell you is V difficult when planning a wedding. The guest list is probably a tricky one for any wedding (no matter what your budget is) and the family politics that occur can be one of the most stressful things to deal with. But its YOUR wedding. No one else’s. Learn to say no to the invite of your third twice removed cousin Karen if you have no plans of having her there, or if someone is insisting that their friend who makes unicorn cakes does your wedding cake, and you don’t exactly want a unicorn cake. You’ll find that people are usually okay, as long as you go about it in a nice way. You will never be able to please everyone, but as long as you and your partner are happy, that’s all that matters.
Pinterest Is NOT Your Best Friend
Okay, so you may be thinking ‘woah Corrie, you ok hun?’ with that statement, but hear me out. I loved Pinterest when we first started wedding planning, I mean I had a wedding planning board before I was even engaged #keen. But soon I started to realise that Pinterest was becoming more of a hindrance than a help and here’s why.
I started to pin everything on to one board and Henry would be like ‘you’re PINNING everything’ and I soon realised that I was finding it hard to work out what I exactly wanted, cause I had so many ideas. So I stopped pinning, and suddenly it was much easier to work out what we wanted, our theme, etc… Pinterest is great for getting ideas, but don’t let it overwhelm you.
Hopefully you’ve found these tips helpful, they have all helped us when it comes to juggling wedding planning with the other responsibilities in your life and has made it a little less stressful.
I’d love to know if you have any tips for keeping wedding planning stress free and of course are you excited for the upcoming Royal Wedding? I’m very intrigued to hear if it’ll be around the same time as ours!