One of the things that I was most stressed about in the lead up to the wedding, was ‘would our guests have a good time?’
After all, you’re spending all this money on a wedding, and what happens if the guests are bored, or don’t enjoy themselves?
I’m a bit of a people pleaser and I like being a hostess, so it’s probably no surprise that I really wanted everyone to have a great time and come away saying ‘what a lovely day!’
In today’s post, I thought I would talk about the things that we felt made our guests have a good time, and what we’d maybe do differently.
First of all,I think the venue you choose will have a big impact on what kind of day your guests will have. One of the big selling points of our venue was the fact that there was so much to do. From the games rooms downstairs, the cinema room, or the extensive gardens, we knew that whatever the weather, our guests would be able to find something to do. We felt like the games rooms would entertain the couple of children that we had coming, and that there was plenty of places to mingle and chat.
2. Food & Drink
The biggest spend on our budget was the food and drink, and I’m so, so glad that we decided to do this. Like I’ve said in my wedding decorating post, it would have been easy to have spent lots on decorations, but they wouldn’t have really had too much of an impact on anyone’s day. Instead, paying for a nice meal and a generous amount of drink, made sure that our guests were well fed and had plenty to drink. Everyone spoke about how good the food was, and how nice the wine was. And I know that’s the kind of thing I’d remember from a wedding! So my top advice would be to spend as much on the food and drink as you can afford, and make it your biggest priority when planning.
3. Having Some Chill Time
It’s quite a long day for guests, so i think having some chill/downtime is good for people to relax and have a bit of a rest. We had from about 6-8pm for guests to chill and sit outside. Some of our guests went up to their room for a nap, some wandered round the grounds, but having some chill time meant that everyone was raring to go for the evening party. It also gave us some time to talk to guests too!
4. Not Too Much Hanging Around
I remember one wedding I went to where there was a lot of hanging round whilst photos were taken and I remember being really hungry. So we decided for ours to try to make sure there wasn’t too much hanging around. We had canapés to stop people from getting too peckish, and didn’t take too long with the photos. We tried to make sure everything ran quite smoothly and quickly so people weren’t hanging around for hours wondering when the food was going to be served! This worked really well for us, and seemed to go down well with the guests.
5. The Music
The music is a huge thing when it comes to the evening, as you want everyone to be up and dancing and having a good time. We had a great DJ, who was fab at playing what we wanted. However, I think mine and Henry’s music choices weren’t the best for getting people up on the dance floor sometimes! We found that a lot of older tracks from the 70/80s/90s got people up dancing, as well as indie/rock tunes. But obviously I’m sure this would differ at each wedding! I think if we had our time again, I’d ask people what makes them get up on to the Dance-floor and put a few of those requests onto the playlist!
All in all, I think the guests at our wedding had a great time, and some people even said how it was the best wedding they’d ever been to which was really lovely to hear. We had a great time, and it was lovely seeing everyone else with big smiles and enjoying themselves.
I wish I could go back and do it all over again!
What would be your ideal wedding to attend as a guest?
All photos were taken by our amazing wedding photographer Emma Pilkington