I felt like this post was a good way to round off Wedding Week here on my blog.
*Which by the way, I hope you’ve enjoyed, and for any wedding haters- normal service will resume soon, I promise!*
So today, I wanted to sit and chat with you, well chat as much as you can through a blog post, and I wanted to talk about what I and well myself and Henry learnt from planning a wedding.
I wanted to chat some non bullshit advice, and get real with you, and who knows maybe it will help any other couples planning their day or at least just be a little interesting.
So you ready?
Here is what I learnt from planning a wedding.
1.Weddings are really expensive.
I mean ‘yes no shit Sherlock’ but seriously, weddings are really expensive. Everything costs a fortune, even the little things, I remember being shocked at how much confetti costs. Confetti! You just throw it on the ground!
It was a shock to start with, and I remember when we calculated the food and drink bill for our wedding, I cried. Yes actual tears were shed.
But here’s the thing, weddings are expensive and well that’s it. You kinda just have to get over it.
If you have a budget stick to it, and prioritise stuff to spend your money on (for us that was food, drink and the venue) and we saved on (decorations, extra flowers etc) I realised that we weren’t buying everyone a meal at Nando’s- this was a lot different, and it was going to be expensive but it would be worth it.
Was it worth it? 100% yes.
I started to enjoy planning so much more when I just accepted that everything was expensive and realised that I didn’t need stuff like blossom trees or a photo booth to have a good wedding as they were out of our budget. But accept it, go with it and try to not compare it to normal life because otherwise you will probably cry.
2. Be Selfish
You’ve gotta do what’s best for you and your partner when it comes to planning your wedding. Do what makes you happy and what you want your wedding to be like.
You will find out when planning a wedding, that everyone has an opinion on something ; whether its the food, guest list or venue, someone will probably tell you their advice/thoughts and it can be easy to roll over and let people have what they want.
But it isn’t their wedding, it’s yours.
We decided we wanted to do things our way, and hopefully the day represented us, I feel like we did take everyone into consideration, but a lot of the choices were made with ourselves in mind. And there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t feel bad for it, IT’S YOUR WEDDING!
3. It Can Be Tricky Organising Guests
It’s not going to be plain sailing planning an event for a lot of people. We found that a lot of the wedding stress was guest related, I don’t think people realised how stressful it is to plan a wedding sometimes, and how things like a late RSVP or telling you very close to the wedding about their food intolerances can send you over the edge.
We did have a couple of guest related moments, that lead to frantic emails to the venue to change things, but try to not get too worked up.
I did a lot of deep breathing around the time that RSVP’s were coming in haha!
4. The Stress Is Worth It
I was Stressed with a capital S when it came to wedding planning, but seriously the stress is all worth it. Kind of.
Do I wish I hadn’t got as stressed? Yes and no.
Yes because the things I stressed about, I didn’t need to stress about and didn’t matter on the day, and then no, because I think stressing about the wedding is a normal thing to do.
The day was perfect, did it 100% go to plan? Absolutely not.
One of the best bits of advice I got before the wedding, was to not panic if things aren’t perfect. I really tried to take that on and just tried to be chilled, and honestly it worked.
There was torrential rain on the morning, there was a bit of a drama with the buttonholes, everyone had to crowd into The Orangery out of the rain before I’d got to see it, and trust me, before the wedding, these would have sent me into a frenzy. But on the day, did I mind? No. Did anyone else mind? No.
So I pass on the same advice that I was given. Don’t stress if things aren’t perfect.
No one know what everything is supposed to look like and to them it will be perfect.
5. Pinterest Isn’t Your Best Friend
I spoke about this in one of my posts last week, about how I had to come off Pinterest whilst planning my wedding.
Pinterest is probably one of the places most people head to once they’re engaged, I mean it has a whole host of ideas for your wedding, and I found myself getting too caught up with it all.
But here’s the thing, a lot of the weddings aren’t real, or they have some kind of budget that screams ‘I’ve just won the Euromillions’
Use it for inspiration, but don’t get too caught up with the notion of having a Pinterest wedding.
6. Your Wedding Makes You Appreciate Your Family & Friends
After our wedding, we spoke about how grateful we were for our friends and family who all made the effort to come to our wedding and make our day so special.
It’s made us really appreciate everyone in our lives, and how lucky we are to have them. All the stress of late RSVP’s and table plan changes were worth it, and I honestly just felt so grateful to have everyone we loved in that room with us.
I felt like a big ball of love after the wedding which is weird cause usually my heart is made of stone. Weddings do the strangest things to you.
And there we go, there is some snippets of advice from myself and Henry when it comes to wedding planning. It’s weird that it’s all over now, but I’m also excited for this new chapter in our lives, and I’m really bloody glad that I don’t have to do another table plan anytime soon!
I hope you’ve enjoyed my wedding week posts and hearing all about our day, I’ve loved writing them and sharing them with you!
If you’ve been married, what would be your one piece of advice for couples planning their wedding?
All of our beautiful wedding photos were taken by Emma Pilkington